{"id":192,"date":"2018-10-30T13:51:43","date_gmt":"2018-10-30T13:51:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/modernbossmama.com\/?p=192"},"modified":"2018-10-30T13:51:43","modified_gmt":"2018-10-30T13:51:43","slug":"things-not-to-say-to-a-pregnant-colleague","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/modernbossmama.com\/index.php\/2018\/10\/30\/things-not-to-say-to-a-pregnant-colleague\/","title":{"rendered":"Things NOT to Say to a Pregnant Colleague"},"content":{"rendered":"

Day 35:<\/p>\n

A year ago today, I posted on facebook last October about a man on the elevator at work asking me if I was expecting. I laughed made some comment about a beer belly and vowed never to wear that dress again. The joke is on me though because two months later I found out I WAS<\/em><\/strong> pregnant. Here are some things that were constantly said to me that I would caution others to not say in the workplace.<\/p>\n

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  1. Were you trying? <\/strong>Kind of personal. Best to just let the pregnant person take the lead on what they choose to share.<\/li>\n
  2. \u00a0Are you pregnant or is that a beer belly? <\/strong>I can\u2019t make this up. See above. Also, I\u2019m the only person who is allowed to call my belly a beer belly. I don\u2019t comment on men\u2019s beer bellies at work, and believe me I\u2019m surrounded by more than a few.<\/li>\n
  3. You Look great.. for being x months pregnant.<\/strong> Just stop at you look great.<\/li>\n
  4. You look so big or you are so much bigger than so and so. <\/strong>Many women are insecure and hormonal about how they are looking. Especially in the early stages of pregnancy when not everyone knows they are pregnant. You don\u2019t know what a person is going through. Best not to comment.<\/li>\n
  5. I can\u2019t believe you are still.. [insert normal part of my job here]. <\/strong>I\u2019m pregnant, not unable to perform at the same level. I don\u2019t want any special circumstances granted. If I need to be excused from something, I\u2019ll ask. But don\u2019t assume that I won\u2019t travel or participate in something just because I\u2019m pregnant. There are better ways to word things to ensure you are being appropriately empathetic to your employees situation while respecting their ability to perform at work.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Positive Thought of the Day: Sometimes things happen for a reason. One year later after the man\u2019s comment in the elevator, I am happily snuggling the chilliest baby ever and enjoying a little break from a very intense work year. Although, I was shocked that someone thought I was pregnant a year ago and couldn\u2019t fathom another child at the time, now I cannot imagine my life without the little guy.<\/span><\/p>\n

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    Day 35: A year ago today, I posted on facebook last October about a man on the elevator at work asking me if I was expecting. I laughed made some comment about a beer belly and vowed never to wear that dress again. The joke is on me though because two months later I found … <\/p>\n

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